Thursday, October 3, 2013
Zara is almost 2
On a mother's note, even though Zara has been a bit challenging lately and has tested my patience I feel so happy and full of love for the little being that she is becoming. I feel like all I want to do is support who she is becoming, do my best to teach her emotional intelligence, help her understand that her wants and my wants will need to co-exist, and show her feelings, wants and needs respect. Being an educator to so many young people I have to say that I believe in Positive Behavior Support (PBS) whole heartedly and I really feel that if I can implement this into my parenting style that even though challenging moments will present themselves in the long run it will pay off.
On a personal note I am coming to terms with the fact that I cannot be the "perfect" woman/mother. I cannot cook gourmet meals, clean, do all the laundry, do all the dishes, have a perfect body, have a clean home, work almost full time and still be a present, loving, compassionate and fun mom. I cannot do it all so I am having to let go of that. I read a blog the other day about this illusion of being the perfect woman and how so many of those idealisms have carried over from the 1950's. Being a working mother I have to take care of my child, myself and my relationship before making sure everything else is done. I keep up fairly well but I do have to say that I go 100 mph all day long and into the evening. I rarely have time to do things for me but I do sneak in a yoga class at least once a week and do my best to read a chapter in a book maybe once a week, sometimes more. I feel balanced emotionally and physically but I have to keep my head above water long enough to find that balance. Motherhood is no joke ladies!